of Clinton, AR
December 12, 1958 - April 17, 2025
Joseph Bryan Essary was born on Dec. 12th, 1958, in Lake Charles, Louisianna to Clyde and Louise Essary. As a child, they moved to the bootheel of MO, which proved to have better hunting spots. As the oldest of 5, Bryan quickly learned leadership skills that some might confuse with bossiness. He was deeply loved by his parents and sister, Teresa, who proceeded him in death. He leaves behind 3 dear brothers, Neil, Marty, and John, and a brother-in-law, Mike Barnes.
Bryan attended Portageville High School and graduated in 1977; his school pride and friendships never faded. He was a Bulldog to the very end. It was in that small town of Portageville that he would meet people who he would cherish the rest of his life, his very best friends, and most of all, his wife, Pam. Bryan and Pam were high school sweethearts and are still bitter, they didn't win the cutest couple their senior year. (We agree that they deserved it and would appreciate a recount.) He truly loved her, and although the odds were against them, they were happily married for almost 48 years. They had two daughters, Alyson and Christen. Bryan adored them and was at every game, play, and event cheering them on or telling them to toughen up. He thought they hung the moon, until they gave him grandchildren. Lizzy, Carson, and Rowden were the most precious people on the planet to him, and Bryan took his role of Pops extremely seriously. He loved nothing more than spending time with them outdoors hunting and fishing.
What will we remember most about Bryan? Bryan was an avid outdoorsman and loved being in the deer stand or duck blind more than anywhere else in the world. (Who needs Paris, France when he's got Turd Island??) In addition to his life-long hunting buddies, he loved sharing his knowledge and appreciation of nature with those who were wanting to try something new. Bryan was a loyal and loving husband, a true family man who always kept his promises, making him a great role model for his sons-in-law, Mike and Brian. He was known by many as Uncle Bryan or Pops, two roles he cherished. He had opinions on EVERYTHING, and lucky for us, he had never once been wrong in 66 years. He was a good person who valued hard work, telling the truth, and doing what you can for others. He liked jokes, and he really loved to laugh. Bryan was a devout Catholic, and his faith gave him much comfort and hope in his final days of battling cancer. Bryan will be missed by so many because he loved us all so well.
A funeral Mass and burial will take place in Portageville, Missouri at a later date. In lieu of flowers, consider donating to Catch-A-Dream Foundation.
Dear Essary Family, sending lots of love to you at this most sad time. Bryan was a consummate gentleman, loving husband and father. His legacy will be his loving spirit. I ache for your profound loss and hope beautiful memories can help ease some of your pain.
Pam and family,
I was so sorry to hear about Bryan. You and your family are in my prayers.
I think about those days at Watson and all that PTA work we did...so long ago.
Take care of yourself.
Linda
Pam & family, my heart is breaking for you. Bryan was such a great guy. Hold close to the wonderful memories you made and always rely on the strength he thought each of you to have. Sending love and holding you all up in prayer.
Our thoughts go out to you and your family. Enjoyed the years I worked and played softball with Bryan. Lots of fun to be around.
We are so saddened by the news of Bryan’s passing.Pam know you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Bryan and I were close friends when we were in grade school in Poplar Bluff, Mo. He lived next door to us on Lester Street. He moved to Portageville in 3rd or 4th grade. The last time I saw him was at his aunts funeral in Poplar Bluff 20+ years ago. But we found each other on Facebook and kept up with each other there. Prayers god all if his family. Even though I hadn’t seen him in many years I will miss seeing his post and keeping up with him.